Flipping The Healthy Mindset Script

Flipping the Healthy Mindset Script

Healthy Mindset

Everybody knows that having a healthy mindset matters. Across the board. It affects everything… our health, mental well-being and spiritual evolvement.

There is a simple shortcut. The great Wallace Wattles wrote about consecration in the Science of Being Great.

Pretty simple directions. Surrender your body to your mind, your mind to your soul, and your soul to God… whatever God is to you… source of all good, Universal Mind, The Creator, you get the point.

Easy to understand, easy to do. So why do we struggle to do it? If we’re not co-creating with our understanding of “The Force” of all Good, ego returns and usually a shit show follows. Right?

What stops us?

The Comfort Zone

Relax, none of that stupid nonsense about “just get out of your comfort zone” and take “massive action.” What a bunch of crap. Most people don’t really understand that comfort zone. Bottom line? Until we learn to control the comfort zone, it controls us.

When the comfort zone is running the show, a healthy mindset is MIA [missing in action]. And we suffer in body, mind, and spirit. Maybe “suffer” is too strong a word for you, but surely, we agree, it is not a healthy mindset when addiction to the comfort zone is, well… let’s face it, all addiction that controls our life is not good.

So, what is the comfort zone? There are 5 walls, a pentagon.

The 5 walls are:

• Fear
• Hurt Feelings
• Guilt
• Unworthiness
• Anger

The comfort part? We don’t want to feel any of those things. All five are “uncomfortable.” Not feeling them becomes comfortable. Avoiding risk therefore feels “comfortable.” So sad! Thus, the phrase “comfort zone” refers to avoiding all five walls of the pentagon.

Expanding or Contracting

The comfort zone is always expanding or contracting. We see older people, like me embrace life, take risks and lose self-consciousness or, ut-oh, shrink from life.

We all know older people from each group. Those always going out, trying new things, and laughing at themselves and life… and those eating cereal, watching T,V and talking discontentedly about how it was better in the good old days. Outside of Dr. visits, the pharmacy, and the grocery store, not much is going on. Waiting to die.

Once we decide to control the comfort zone, a healthy mindset follows. Again, getting out of the zone is dumb, no one sustains those short trips outside the zone. Just understand that it will expand or contract and decide to expand it 1% a day. The compounding effect is mind-blowing on three levels.

Flipping the Healthy Mindset Script

First, you know, in your gut, it is expanding, and what was a tiny bit uncomfortable a week ago is comfortable now. This awareness is enrapturing; the little risks that the comfort zone blocked before are now the right size.

Second, you start thinking consciously of possibilities instead of unconsciously avoiding new things, risks, and adventure.

Third, once you are deliberating expanding, little by little, the edges of the comfort zone… in other words, you are now controlling it, you genuinely feel a healing and healthy mindset.

Ironically the Walls are Tools

Once I discovered that the 5 “walls” were actually tools, it was easy to keep living on the edge of the comfort zone. As the Fabulous Davene likes to say, “If you’re not living on the edge, you're taking up too much space.”

Obviously, we’re talking about a change and change takes commitment, passion and energy. Lots of energy.

Fear gives us focus and energy. Exactly what is needed to nudge the edges of the zone.

Hurt Feelings remind us how much we care about what we are doing. See rejection as confirmation that you care and fuel your passion.

Guilt is awesome. Shitty people don’t feel guilty! If you did not execute and feel guilty, good! Celebrate your honesty, remember the guilt when you are thinking of procrastinating!

Unworthiness… we simply pile so many things on our plate because we think it yields a feeling of worthiness. Like, I want to be a great networker, top speaker in my company, start an NPO for needy kids, be the head Deacon at my church, write a best seller, be the world’s greatest dad, and get closer to God… then tomorrow… well, you get the point. Have the humility to understand that all those things require greatness, and you just can’t do them all at once. Pick one … you are worthy of that one big thing.

Anger like fear, gives us amazing amounts of energy and focus.

It will take awareness and practice, but I can assure you that learning to use the walls of the comfort zone means it is no longer controlling you… mandatory in discovering and maintaining a healthy mindset.

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